30 days to go before our wedding. Can you imagine how time flies so fast? It was 9 months ago when I started this blog hoping I'd be able to put in every detail of our wedding preps for our dear guests and for our soon-to-be children, to give them something to read on about what has transpired during our wedding preps and the actual wedding itself. I guess I failed to do that, well not a really good blogger here but at least I made a few accounts of what happened during some of those stressful and fun moments of our days.
Anyway, so how are we with our wedding preps? Just when I thought everything's okay, turned out it isn't. (Beware! this is a looong read)
The pianist and violinist we thought were good turned out to be otherwise. I should've thought about it the first time I listened to them but I was still hopeful there'd be an improvement. They're both music teachers by profession and so I really expected so much from them and I was wrong. Every now and then I had to make follow-ups regarding their music rehearsals which in the first place I shouldn't be doing. If they were professional people this shouldn't be a problem. I had to find pieces of the songs I wanted them to play. I didn't have to do that. They kept on giving me excuses and sometimes even made me feel guilty for not being able to attend to their music classes in order to do rehearsals for my wedding. wth, right? So, when I finally made an arrangement to meet them and hear their music, again, we called Gem (our coordinator) to come with us. I told rain, she had to be with us to back me up if ever I didn't like the song. Gem, has this attitude of being straightforward and blunt that she'd tell you what she wants to say but in a right way, of course. And I'm not like her, although, I tell what I feel, I lack conviction, so I needed her. True enough, when we heard their music, they were not really blending as they were supposed to. The violinist was actually good but their music together wasn't. The pianist blamed it to the piece I gave them, they said it was melody (what now?). Then they put the blame to the organ as the music played in piano is a lot different from it but they do not allow to use their piano as it's too big to be transported. Then the excuses go on and on until Gem finally told them that we're not paying for a service we do not like. We're getting the violin and we're not paying the remaining balance as it will be too much if we do so. The pianist and the violinist had to excuse themselves to have a closed door discussion. When they came back they decided that neither of them will play music on my wedding. They gave us back the downpayment I gave previously (less 1k for the effort they've already exerted). I actually felt kind of relief for getting my money back although I also felt sorry for them but Rain said I shouldn't feel that way. Their music was awful and we couldn't imagine them playing music on our wedding. We have given them a lot of time to practice for the songs (though if they were professionals, they didn't have to) but everytime we hear them, it's as if they never practiced enough. And it was almost a month and a half to go before the actual big day and still they aren't prepared yet. So I stopped thinking about it and was just thankful for sparing our hard-earned money from an awful service. Good thing, Gem has a friend who really plays piano in churches and yesterday, Rain met them and heard their music. There was a violinist too. I had work on weekend so Rain had to take videos of them playing their instruments. When I saw the videos, I was in awe. I asked myself why did I not met them before and spare myself from stress and all the non-stop worrying?? So, we're getting another pianist and violinist again, but this time, I can truly say they were good. (thank God).
Next to list is the dressmaker of my secondary sponsors' dresses. Last JULY, we went to this local couturier as recommended by my HS classmate. She was also the one who made my friend's wedding gown which was nice. Since my entourage are all coming from Lipa, I decided not to get manila-based couturiers as it will be hard for them to travel and do fitting. I've heard she really makes beautiful and well-fitted dresses although according to some, the main problem with her is that she never makes dresses on time. I thought it wouldn't be a problem. It was JULY when i brought my entourage (including my mom) to have their measurements taken. I also paid 5k downpayment thinking that they will start making the dresses. But no! since i lost track of time and failed to do follow-ups, I learned that she hasn't done them yet. wth?! I went to her 1st week of AUGUST to also ask her to make a gown i'd be using for my prenup. Came my prenup day and it wasn't done yet!! Good thing i lied and told her my prenup was on Aug 30 when it was actually Sept 7. My dress was made on time for my prenup though i'd say it wasn't really perfect. Anyway, I told her that she had to finish the rest of the gowns by end of Oct. I really made it clear to her but time went on and she begged it to be moved by end of NOVEMBER, which is TODAY. So yesterday, my entourage together with rain went to her house for their fitting. (i was at work). They do not have any problem with the fitting, although my sister after seeing her photo became concerned by how it didn't look the way she wanted it to. My mom and rain's aunt's gowns were not sewn yet! wth?? She said she brought her mother to the hospital the day before that's why they were not made. omg! it's been months! for goodness sake! the vest of my bearers were not done yet and the flower girls' gowns were not how I want them to be. That is so frustrating. I had to go to her right after I arrived home from manila earlier today. With me were rain and my sister. We talked to her about my sis's revision on her dress, then the flower girls'. I was told the reason for that is because they were not done yet. The belt, flowers and straps were missing and I was told i can pick them up this afternoon but i lost the energy to go back to her again so I'm planning to do it tomorrow. I was on rage when I ask her why my mom's dress wasn't done yet, she said that her assistant just arrived and that i didn't have to worry because they can finish it in 2 days. what?! i pray it won't turn into a disaster. I was promised that everything will be picked-up on Saturday, Dec5. My oh my.. this is horrible.. but what else can i do but pray.
Then my florist for the church. I thought I have no problem with her. She was the florist of my cousin during her wedding in 2013. She's kind and friendly, she even made beautiful bracelets for our entourage, if you've read it in my previous blog. She offers cheap services yet they were pretty good. So when we booked her last July, i printed copies of pegs for my flowers; my bridal bouquet, entourage and so on... I told her I'm not having flowers to line the aisle, instead, i want white twigs with blings which will be transported to the reception after the ceremony. I printed everything and all she said was OK. And because I was worried, last week, I asked Rain to bring her a cake and ask her to make a sample of the twigs which will be put on the aisle. He did and she agreed. I just wanted to really make sure they can make it. We were supposed to see her today as scheduled but when I called her yesterday, she told me they couldn't find twigs yet during these days, that they have to still go to manila to find some and that they're still looking for a van that they can use. WHAT?? Again, it's been months! what the hell is wrong with these people. Have I been wronged to choose them in the first place. I'm scared, really... it's almost 4 weeks to go before my wedding and everything seems to be going nowhere. I asked her to do everything she can to have it done. I so hope she can.
Then there's our videographer and editor who never replied to our emails and txt messages. We wanted to meet them to talk to them regarding our video preferences. But they just couldn't be reached and the only replies we're getting are apologies coming from their secretary. It's just getting into my nerves. It was never in our plan to actually get this specific videography team but during that time when we booked our photography team, they happened to offer a very good promo at a reasonable price and since they both were managed by one person only, I thought that they'll be great. If i only knew how hard it is to reach them, i should've never booked them at all. I'm willing to pay more for wonderful suppliers. and so now i'm feeling down, so down it's starting to break me.
Then I have Benedict, the florist/stylist for our reception that's included in our package. I asked him if he can make a sample of our guest centerpiece flower. I had to see it because, I just felt i had to. We couldn't agree with a date at first. He said he has several services to attend to but finally, he agreed to meet me tomorrow and I hope something good will happen.
They say, have faith and everything will fall into place... I'm hoping it will..
Anyway, so how are we with our wedding preps? Just when I thought everything's okay, turned out it isn't. (Beware! this is a looong read)
The pianist and violinist we thought were good turned out to be otherwise. I should've thought about it the first time I listened to them but I was still hopeful there'd be an improvement. They're both music teachers by profession and so I really expected so much from them and I was wrong. Every now and then I had to make follow-ups regarding their music rehearsals which in the first place I shouldn't be doing. If they were professional people this shouldn't be a problem. I had to find pieces of the songs I wanted them to play. I didn't have to do that. They kept on giving me excuses and sometimes even made me feel guilty for not being able to attend to their music classes in order to do rehearsals for my wedding. wth, right? So, when I finally made an arrangement to meet them and hear their music, again, we called Gem (our coordinator) to come with us. I told rain, she had to be with us to back me up if ever I didn't like the song. Gem, has this attitude of being straightforward and blunt that she'd tell you what she wants to say but in a right way, of course. And I'm not like her, although, I tell what I feel, I lack conviction, so I needed her. True enough, when we heard their music, they were not really blending as they were supposed to. The violinist was actually good but their music together wasn't. The pianist blamed it to the piece I gave them, they said it was melody (what now?). Then they put the blame to the organ as the music played in piano is a lot different from it but they do not allow to use their piano as it's too big to be transported. Then the excuses go on and on until Gem finally told them that we're not paying for a service we do not like. We're getting the violin and we're not paying the remaining balance as it will be too much if we do so. The pianist and the violinist had to excuse themselves to have a closed door discussion. When they came back they decided that neither of them will play music on my wedding. They gave us back the downpayment I gave previously (less 1k for the effort they've already exerted). I actually felt kind of relief for getting my money back although I also felt sorry for them but Rain said I shouldn't feel that way. Their music was awful and we couldn't imagine them playing music on our wedding. We have given them a lot of time to practice for the songs (though if they were professionals, they didn't have to) but everytime we hear them, it's as if they never practiced enough. And it was almost a month and a half to go before the actual big day and still they aren't prepared yet. So I stopped thinking about it and was just thankful for sparing our hard-earned money from an awful service. Good thing, Gem has a friend who really plays piano in churches and yesterday, Rain met them and heard their music. There was a violinist too. I had work on weekend so Rain had to take videos of them playing their instruments. When I saw the videos, I was in awe. I asked myself why did I not met them before and spare myself from stress and all the non-stop worrying?? So, we're getting another pianist and violinist again, but this time, I can truly say they were good. (thank God).
Next to list is the dressmaker of my secondary sponsors' dresses. Last JULY, we went to this local couturier as recommended by my HS classmate. She was also the one who made my friend's wedding gown which was nice. Since my entourage are all coming from Lipa, I decided not to get manila-based couturiers as it will be hard for them to travel and do fitting. I've heard she really makes beautiful and well-fitted dresses although according to some, the main problem with her is that she never makes dresses on time. I thought it wouldn't be a problem. It was JULY when i brought my entourage (including my mom) to have their measurements taken. I also paid 5k downpayment thinking that they will start making the dresses. But no! since i lost track of time and failed to do follow-ups, I learned that she hasn't done them yet. wth?! I went to her 1st week of AUGUST to also ask her to make a gown i'd be using for my prenup. Came my prenup day and it wasn't done yet!! Good thing i lied and told her my prenup was on Aug 30 when it was actually Sept 7. My dress was made on time for my prenup though i'd say it wasn't really perfect. Anyway, I told her that she had to finish the rest of the gowns by end of Oct. I really made it clear to her but time went on and she begged it to be moved by end of NOVEMBER, which is TODAY. So yesterday, my entourage together with rain went to her house for their fitting. (i was at work). They do not have any problem with the fitting, although my sister after seeing her photo became concerned by how it didn't look the way she wanted it to. My mom and rain's aunt's gowns were not sewn yet! wth?? She said she brought her mother to the hospital the day before that's why they were not made. omg! it's been months! for goodness sake! the vest of my bearers were not done yet and the flower girls' gowns were not how I want them to be. That is so frustrating. I had to go to her right after I arrived home from manila earlier today. With me were rain and my sister. We talked to her about my sis's revision on her dress, then the flower girls'. I was told the reason for that is because they were not done yet. The belt, flowers and straps were missing and I was told i can pick them up this afternoon but i lost the energy to go back to her again so I'm planning to do it tomorrow. I was on rage when I ask her why my mom's dress wasn't done yet, she said that her assistant just arrived and that i didn't have to worry because they can finish it in 2 days. what?! i pray it won't turn into a disaster. I was promised that everything will be picked-up on Saturday, Dec5. My oh my.. this is horrible.. but what else can i do but pray.
Then my florist for the church. I thought I have no problem with her. She was the florist of my cousin during her wedding in 2013. She's kind and friendly, she even made beautiful bracelets for our entourage, if you've read it in my previous blog. She offers cheap services yet they were pretty good. So when we booked her last July, i printed copies of pegs for my flowers; my bridal bouquet, entourage and so on... I told her I'm not having flowers to line the aisle, instead, i want white twigs with blings which will be transported to the reception after the ceremony. I printed everything and all she said was OK. And because I was worried, last week, I asked Rain to bring her a cake and ask her to make a sample of the twigs which will be put on the aisle. He did and she agreed. I just wanted to really make sure they can make it. We were supposed to see her today as scheduled but when I called her yesterday, she told me they couldn't find twigs yet during these days, that they have to still go to manila to find some and that they're still looking for a van that they can use. WHAT?? Again, it's been months! what the hell is wrong with these people. Have I been wronged to choose them in the first place. I'm scared, really... it's almost 4 weeks to go before my wedding and everything seems to be going nowhere. I asked her to do everything she can to have it done. I so hope she can.
Then there's our videographer and editor who never replied to our emails and txt messages. We wanted to meet them to talk to them regarding our video preferences. But they just couldn't be reached and the only replies we're getting are apologies coming from their secretary. It's just getting into my nerves. It was never in our plan to actually get this specific videography team but during that time when we booked our photography team, they happened to offer a very good promo at a reasonable price and since they both were managed by one person only, I thought that they'll be great. If i only knew how hard it is to reach them, i should've never booked them at all. I'm willing to pay more for wonderful suppliers. and so now i'm feeling down, so down it's starting to break me.
Then I have Benedict, the florist/stylist for our reception that's included in our package. I asked him if he can make a sample of our guest centerpiece flower. I had to see it because, I just felt i had to. We couldn't agree with a date at first. He said he has several services to attend to but finally, he agreed to meet me tomorrow and I hope something good will happen.
They say, have faith and everything will fall into place... I'm hoping it will..
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